It is obvious, to me at least, on reading the many comments of the women, and relating their views to what is written in the sex manuals, that two conditions will have to be met before women can enjoy sex to the full, and before men (and women) become better, more considerate, more sensitive lovers.
The first condition is the need for each partner to be able to speak openly about what stimulated him, or her, sexually, and what stops sexual arousal. Sex is communication! Because of our upbringing, during which we have been taught that sex is some ‘special’ function, that the genitals are to be hidden because they are ‘dirty’, and that sex is ‘indulged’ in and not enjoyed, we find it difficult to talk about our sexual needs and what we want. Since women are disadvantaged sexually in our culture, it is even harder for many women to tell their partners what they want.
A man can help, by telling his partner what he wants sexually and by asking her what stimulates her sexually. Once he can communicate openly and comfortably about sex, his sex life will be much more enjoyable.
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